On the way to the gym one day, I was listening to a podcast. The voice I heard had me spellbound. The influencer was speaking to the pain I was feeling inside, in a way that was more validating than anything I’d ever heard, not from my parents, not from school, not from the media. He said things like, “There is nothing less valued than young men,” and “Masculinity isn’t toxic.” Hearing this was deeply relieving. He gets it, I thought. I had found my tribe. Where I belonged.